Finding Perspective: Why Complaining Doesn’t Help in Sports

Each person does see the world in a different way. There is not a single, unifying, objective truth. We’re all limited by our perspective. — Siri Histvedt

“It’s too hot.”

“The courts are slippery.”

“The refs are trash.”

In sports, especially at the youth level, complaints can come from all directions.

Yet, sometimes it’s worth stepping back to remember why you’re here in the first place.

You play this game because you love it. Your coach coaches because it’s their passion. And when you focus on what really matters, you’ll find that most of our complaints are just noise.

Coach Stas Ovdieienko put it perfectly: “We couldn’t complain because players are still playing.” Think about that for a moment.

After the disruptions caused by a global pandemic, court closures, and limited practice opportunities, the fact that some teams were allowed back on the court should be enough to be thankful for.

The next time you’re tempted to complain, ask yourself: Does this really matter? Is it worth focusing on the little inconveniences when you could be grateful for the opportunity to play the game you love?

It’s a shift in mindset that can change your whole approach to sports — and to life.

Complaining creates a negative atmosphere.

It drains energy and pulls focus away from what truly matters. Instead of spending time whining about the small stuff, how about channelling that energy into becoming a better player?

Train harder, support your teammates, and enjoy the moments on the court. Life is too short to waste it on complaints.

When you catch yourself complaining, try this exercise: Think about someone who would give anything to be in your shoes. Maybe it’s someone who’s injured or someone who doesn’t have access to the same resources you do.

That perspective can make a world of difference.

Complaints are easy, but gratitude requires intention.

By focusing on gratitude, you not only improve your attitude but also inspire those around you. As a youth athlete, you’re part of a team. Your teammates look up to you, and coaches rely on you to bring positive energy.

Be the kind of player who uplifts everyone, not the one who brings everyone down.

So the next time you’re about to complain about the court, the music, or anything else that doesn’t really matter, pause and remember why you’re here.

You’re playing the sport you love, with teammates who count on you. Be grateful for that, and the rest will fall into place.